The Life – Mr. Hko

*HOW DO YOU VIEW “CONTROL” ?*

_“Life is not all about freedom; to be Free is sometimes a snare to death”_ 
– Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)

For most of us, there is always a derogatory and a squalid attachment to the word “Control” and sometimes any attempt by anyone or any situation to control us, make us defensively wild and resistant. From married couples to children (adolescents), the case is true of them. The worse part of it is when they view genuine and purposeful control as taunting or evil. They would rather want to do things anyhow or anyway that pleases their desires. Such unrestrained and uncontrolled desires can actual lead to future hurts and regrets. This is not to insinuate that one still have to be under demeaning, abusive or deadly forms of control. You should however, not break-free from situations (people) just because it (they) control(s) you, and make you uncomfortable, especially if it’s a “guided control” meant to make your path and life clear and straight. As humans, some amount of control, restriction or denial is very essential for our well-being (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual). _*The whole universe is under control. It is ‘sphererically bound’ with a lot of limiting (controlling) forces like the gravitation. We can’t live without bounds in any dispensation or stage we might find ourselves. That would be catastrophic and unnatural.*_

No matter the heights we have reached in life, it is very essential you create your own “purposeful controls” or live within the controls prescribed by those who love you or more experienced than you, to protect your entire well being. Especially in the case of youngsters, the guidances and control from parents or adults are of great importance to actually make them wise and thrive well in life. The scripture itself is full of “control mechanisms” of emotions, desires and life in general, so things may augur well with us.
_“Directed and Purposeful control lead to real freedom, whereas unrestricted freedom leads to Hurts and Regrets_

We all need measures of guided control and restrictions in all aspects of our lives. In case you live “freely and wildly” it’s high time you tamed (controlled) your lifestyle with principles and other controlling mechanisms (from others) in the form of advice or warnings so that you don’t get eluded with the (unseen) hurtful arrows of life”
No matter who you’ve come to be, never outgrow advice, learning or purposeful control meant to shape your life for the best.

Mr. HKO (Writer and Coach)
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“Have you ever wondered how our physical eyes would be useless without light? We may have physical eyes yet blind because of the absence of light.

Our eyes and light are typical allegories of situations of life in terms of function. Superficially, our eyes cannot see without light. Connotatively, our visions, clear judgement, decisions, imaginations, which together represent the physical eyes become blur without knowledge and enlightenment, which together also represent light. Without knowledge (light), we become blind (of useless eyes). The amount of knowledge we amass is not as important as implementing the ones we have come to have. In the same vein, the amount of torch (lights) that we have is not as important as lightening them to unleash their full potentials (use) of making the eyes see.

It’s prudent to apply the knowledge and wisdom we have come to have rather than receiving tons of them without applying them. So it would be pointless reading all the knowledge and wisdom you come across just for amassing them. It’s imperative to learn well the few and implement them for its full benefits of giving you clear insight about everything in life.”

Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)

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Motivation is simply an incentive, or a reason, given to assure or encourage someone to do something willingly.

Motivation is good, but over-reliance of it would even mean you need motivation to rise up from bed or to live. To a larger extent, motivation is overrated and more or less suppresses “the powerful-and-intrinsic-step-up-mechanisms” humans are made of.
We have overrated Motivation such that people feel incapacitated, consciously or unconsciously to blossom fully and to do whatever is required of them. They always look up to “The Motivation” – from counsellors, authorities, parents, friends and so on in order to live or breath – That, is such an unfortunate situation, especially for the youth, who are made of full vigor and spirit.

Motivation often occurs in two ways:

External Motivation, just does a little to spark life and bliss in us, but unfortunately, a lot of people eagerly live and expect to be motivated or stirred up by others (bosses, counsellors, parents, friends etc) or situations in order to even do the right thing. They always feel gloomy and just lost, in various dispensations of life until he listens to, or receives motivation externally.

Inner -Motivation, on the other hand, is very essential to maintain our Joy and enthusiasm. Many others who are enlightened, strive to always be intrinsically motivated by passion, compassion and love to do whatever is required of them and to live and blossom regardless of any form of happenstance. _Always let your Inner-Motivation drive all other motivations, so that you don’t suffer the absence of approval, acceptance, assistance and praise from others, but rather enjoy the full burning passion of engineering your inner-self to whatever is required for you and of you_”

Of course, we can’t completely rule out the momentary spark of vigor and enthusiasm associated with motivation (external) but the longevity and sustenance of our Joy in life, largely depends on our intrinsic or inner motivation that we always engineer to, not only give us reasons to do something, but with passion, compassion and whole-hearted love. What’s more, environmentally, nature has given us enough reasons (motivation) to thrive and to succeed. Yes, our Inner-drive and Nature, gives us ample and sustainable conditions to blossom, regardless the situation.

Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)
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So many people get baffled each day as to Why the people they so cherish and love behave so mean and unfavorable towards them, regardless of the immense efforts they put in the relationships just to see it thrive. They tend to feel exhausted and frustrated or even depressed about the whole thing.
I just learned that trying to understand why people are the way they are, or why they behave or treat us the way they do is quite foolish.
You can’t know or understand anyone, not to talk of fixing them; it’s impossible!. Why is the effort to understand others foolish? It is simply because the whole world is like pieces of mirror which are constantly in front of us. Everything we see is a piece of your own self (reflections). What makes it puzzling is that, what we see or experience of others is our own reflections. Then, why is someone so hostile or dishonest, or ungrateful or something else to you, when you Know full well that you are not hostile, dishonest, ungrateful and so on but rather friendly, appreciative, honest and so on towards them; how then can those bad things you experience from others actually be a reflection of you?
Well, the truth is that what we know about ourselves or we have come to know about us, is not who we really are. That actual person we really are is shrouded in mystry and we don’t possess absolute knowledge of who we are; intelligently, we could say we embody everything and anything – good and evil.

What we know ourselves to be is what we gathered on this planet. Our Brains (memory and intelligence) is an aggregate of impressions from the time we were born. So the impressions we get from people and situations, form our brains. Our body is the aggregate of food. Status, Position, and so on, are all picked up from this planet. So originally, no one can absolutely know and touch thier real fundamental identities. That is why sometimes you do things (good or bad feats) that you become totally perplexed you actually did them.

So, you can’t change or understand anyone on this earth; just imagine trying to do that. The best you can do, as it were, is to try and adjust the mirror you are holding and adjust your face as well in order to see at least, something manageable. Essentially, you can only adjust yourself, not anyone. You can’t change or understand others, because you can’t even understand your own self absolutely. You can only adjust, so at least the reflections (from the other person) may be a little pleasant.

In effect, never be too bothered of people’s actions and try to fix them; You can’t fix anybody. Know that you are not in absolute control and knowledge to do that, not to even change or fix your own self. You can just make adjustments of yourself to have a slightly better reflections of events you experience of people and situations.

Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)
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THE ESSENCE OF HUMILITY

“… come to think of it, man is placed in an already prepared and predetermined space and dimensions of an endless cosmos. He hasn’t been here before, and doesn’t Know even the composition of a mere ant. How then could he think himself bigger or better or wiser of an unknown space? Since he himself is an alien to all what he’s come to know, he would best thrive if he considers everything greater than he, and be lesser than everything and the very expanse of the cosmos; that way, he empties himself and learns the ways of everything he has been disposed to. He learns a great deal and survives this very cosmic space – His whole existence, essentially, becomes a memory of lessons and an intelligence of survival.
If he hardens and walks with egotism, he gets eluded, even by the simplest things he knows nothing of…”

— Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)

WHAT ACTUALLY IS PEACE OF MIND?

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“It is not uncommon to hear or see a lot of people say they want to or strive to have Peace of Mind. Everyone wants it, and it has become more or less a goal of life. So, they completely shun anyone or any situation that conflicts with their comfort or likeness.
_Unfortunately, we are living in a world full of suffering and weaknesses, so we need Compassion and Tolerance more than ever_. We are a unified unit of life, rather than separated entities, so whatever happens to a single person, in a larger dimension, affects everyone in this universe. Avoiding those “intertwined”  to you socially or by family ties won’t necessarily give you that Peace of Mind in the long run. Again, more than ever, we need Compassion and Tolerance in order to safeguard our absolute Peace of Mind, in the larger picture of life.

*_This is what you should know: Real Peace of Mind is attained when we pay attention to our emotions and inner-being; If we handle our emotions to situations and people well, naturally, we enjoy Peace of Mind. It has really nothing to do with obstructions caused by people or situations outside. It’s totally more connected within, than without._*

By exercising Compassion and Tolerance towards others and situations of life, we see those giving us unpleasantness as teachers rather than evil. Yes, they teach us Tolerance, Patience and Emotional Control which are indespensable for our existence.

Yes, instead of judging and avoiding others simply because they challenge our comfort or pleasantness, let us exercises a lot of Compassion and Tolerance, so that like iron may sharpen another iron, we both reap long-lasting benefits, like true Peace of Mind.”

Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)
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*HOW POWERFUL ARE YOU?* –

Remember that, God in his own wisdom made us (our souls) completely sufficient. “An annex to our souls are the sun, the moon, trees and the entire expanse, which serve us bountifully. They are not outside of our souls, but an extension of our souls”

One of the greatest redemptions, mentality and emotionally, is to come to the realization that we are intrinsically successful. Everything found in our beings is enough. Anything (people and situations of life) outside of our being can be very adulterated ( toxic) and a snare to our destruction. As we come in contact with them, we need to fully maintain our energies without any attachments to them. Learn to be involved with everything (people and situations) but with non-attachment and unseriousness. Always be concentrated with your soul. _Success is in each and everyone of us, and it is by this spirit we become content and accept who or what we are, presently_. *This is not to say that we shouldn’t strive to find success, but since success is embedded within us, the realization of it, becomes like a magnet which easily attract other successes outside of our soul. If the magnet of success within us is not fully realised and charged, we can never find lasting success outside; we only find misery.*

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Our physiological and genetic make-up are incredibly awesome. Nothing outside of us can make us complete or happy; everything is within. *“If we know how powerful we are made, we will do less, to achieve more.”*
Anxieties would reduce and patience would be effortless with us. We are positioned to attract greatness always and never to feel lonely – we would never seek the consent or approval from anyone to feel happy. People’s opinions of us become fluffy and inconsequential – We fully preserve our Self-Respect. We would always look deep within and exude that smile no matter what happens to us or situations we find ourself. Realising the ever-powerful-ever super-charging souls we are, can eliminate suicide and emotional trauma in events of failures in our life, because we know we are a powerful magnet to attract everything we might have lost, perhaps in better quality and quantity.
We indeed fully exhibit the essence of being created in the likeness of the supreme being – God, if we come to the absolute realization that we are intrinsically successful. 

Mr. HKO (Writer and Coach)
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Poem:  “Everything is Beautiful”.

Poet:  Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)

Everything is beautiful. This place, this thing, this person, this situation, is beautiful.

Everything is beautiful. The quality and beauty of our reality is nothing but the quality and beauty of our thoughts and judgements. If our thoughts are beautiful, even about the ugliest thing, person or situation, we see beauty.

Everything is beautiful.
Pleasantness and unpleasantness affect and prejudice our judgement of beauty.

Everything is beautiful, untill the imperfect eyes started seeking for perfection in what they see; such sheer folly.

Everything is beautiful.
It’s up to us to paint our judgements and thoughts beautiful of everything we experience to experience beauty.

LOVE’S MESSAGE TO MARRIAGE

Have you found someone you Love, this is what you should know about Love before you step into marriage.
Right from infancy, we feel and are also subtly taught and oriented to veer our very souls to what we love, and so we have or yearn to have engagements with everything we love that we come across. In fact, love is intrinsic of every human and we are almost, if not absolutely, helpless to it. Our very make-up attracts love and gets attracted by love, each micro-second, consciously or unconsciously. We yearn for love and to be loved. Love cannot be scrapped-off or “statued” on our souls – it is ever present and functional. Marriages are suffering because man ( man or woman) is constantly falling in love with everything else and that is a desire their very happiness and meaningful life may depend on; it’s almost a burning desire; and intrinsic too. As soon as you decide to marry because you have found love in a woman or a man, know that, that love cannot rest on them (those you’ve found) alone, so Love wouldn’t be enough sustenance of the marriage. You are bound to love other things too and that create serious rivalry between the marriage and those other things. The supposed adhesive (bond) of marriage, which is love, gets weak, day after day, as it gets attention elsewhere. Remember that anything you love, may suffer rivalry if you discover other things you love too. The rivalry (for love) that makes marriages suffer may or may not necessarily be cheating. Of course it’s one of them, because a partner may have found other love; a burning desire, which is intrinsic. It may also be a job they love so much; a recreation, other family folks; some life goals or ambitions and other things alike. All the above are very natural, legitimate and reasonable as far as the desire to love and be loved burns constantly and fiercely in us – This makes marriage and commitment in marriage very difficult and puzzling especially if our hope is Love. Cheating, betrayal, dishonesty and the like are basically as a result of a misplaced love or burning desire in marriages You should know that Love is the same to all recipients but the impressions and expressions of it are what is different Now, the love for other things will continue to sprout every second of our life and it’s natural, so the question now becomes; how would we profoundly express what we feel rather in our marriage, such that our marriages can thrive, even though we find ourselves in love again with another enterprise: say a goal, a business or in another person, other than our marriage (to our spouse)?

Well, expression and impression are everything as far as love is concerned. One needs to make a firm resolution to express more of love in their marriage. More importantly, since Love cannot be held captive to watch over your marriage, transcend beyond choosing only love to form the institution of marriage This is something both partners must do! Now in case love becomes watery and slip through to other areas in life apart from the marriage, Commitment and Respect are sure to remain. These two, unlike love, are constant factors to the marriage and cannot be shared, spread or divided. You can’t be fully committed to or respect two things at the same space of time or period. For example: if you have to teach in Stage One at 10:00am, Commitment and Respect to that duty and class can never permit you to be in another class at that same time; it’s impossible. On the other hand, when you have just love the class, you may as well develop passionate feelings (love) for a different class, and it would not be surprising to see you dividing the periods for both classes, which comes with its own results. So, that is what Commitment and Respect do in a marriage, in the same vein.

Until both (the man and the woman) have attained the realisation of Commitment and Respect for the institution of marriage, not just even for each spouse, but the whole institution of marriage, then Love is not enough to start off. Love keeps looking (that’s natural and intrinsic); Commitment and Respect stay and create solidarity. For surety, these (Commitment and Respect) are the true adhesives (bonds) of a Marriage.

Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)
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*HOW DANGEROUS ARE  JUDGING AND BLAMING?*

_“We are all effects and consequences, but shrouded in good or evil. Be gentle on yourself and others; you don’t cause anything, neither does anyone”_ Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)

We are all pathetically (helplessly) disposed to all circumstances of this life. It is quite simple to grasp the absolute sense of this assertion when you appreciate the fact that you couldn’t choose  to be in a family of the opulence or the poor, sicle-cell family or a healthy one; physically tall or vertically challenged (short) ones, black or white race and so on. No one decides, we are all the effects or consequence of predetermined combinations we are actually oblivious of!
It is by full consciousness we endeavor to change the trajectory of our situations in life with pain and much effort (physically, emotionally and spiritually)

In the light of this, we can conveniently apply wisdom in all our dealings with others and even our own selves. *Judging and Blaming ourselves or others for the things that happen to us is very unfortunate and could make us depressed for the worse.* Judging and Blaming blind our paths to progress, because all our reasoning and perceptive powers are busy looking for others to blame instead of focusing on the way forward. *_Even if it is obvious that someone is directly connected to our predicaments or fall, just know that they naturally can’t escape their deeds and more importantly, they are just effects or consequencies; they are not actually the cause of such woes._*

In one of Shakespeare’s classicals, “Midsummer Night’s Dream”, a spirit creature named Oberon, through his servant, Puck affects the love between Lysander and Hermia (who are mortals) using a magic potion. Eventually, Lysander rather falls in love with Helena, whom he had no feelings for. It’s obvious that Lysander locks-down his love for Hermia and rather chases Helena as a result of spiritual influences of which they (Lysander , Hermia and Helena) were unaware.
Imagine Hermia judging, blaming or crucifying Lysander for betrayal. Would it be right and comfortable to do? *_At least for the fact that we don’t have absolute control of all the dimensions of life and for the reason that we might not have all the facts of happenings, it would be so unwise and dangerous to judge and blame people or even ourselves for anything that happens_*

Of course we can avoid and do away with people and energies for our peace and progress, but we should never blame them, because there might be several tendencies, spirits or forces that cause things to happen, not the person per se.

When we live a life devoid of Judging and Blaming, we realize that a new energy and momentum dawn on us to quickly reconfigure our tired soul and get back on our feet. We channel our strength to solutions rather than people or excuses. This will also fortify the spirit of forgiveness in us, which in turn, would set us free from the chains of vengeance.

Above all wisdom there is, let us Judge or blame no one, especially ourselves.

Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)
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