WHEN TO TRUNCATE (END) A RELATIONSHIP
The so-called ‘Red Flags’ of relationships aren’t necessarily signs for outright truncation of a relationship. After all, it’s very relative in terms of its impacts on the receiving partners of any relationship.
Red-Flags just expose to you what you have to Observe and Communicate, not what to Contend with; you can’t Contend with Red-flags. As a weakness of the partner, It is a way of telling prospective partners that,” Hey, Observe and Communicate to them!”
Therefore, there can’t be a healthy decision for courtship or marriage if the full effect of Observation and Communication is missing.
Simply, you can’t possibly be with someone you can’t objectively ‘observe and communicate’ freely with, about important things of your decision to be together, possibly forever.
After a keen and consultative Observation and effective Communication, then you deeply examine your energies and strengths, to realize whether or not you can “tolerate” those weaknesses (Red-Flags), with the strengths of those partners as consolations. If relationship counselors refuse to introduce dynamism into their counselling, then a prospective couple would always focus and look out for weaknesses in others rather than in themselves. This would also set standards, which might never be met, because every facet of life, including courtship or marriage, involves dynamics and constant change of circumstances. Change always starts and ends with the one who wants the change.
Thus far, above Love, when any weakness (Red Flad) exist in prospective partners they remember:
- Keen Observation of those weaknesses to ascertain its full force on the success of their union.
- Effective Communication to spell out all doubts and concerns.
If these two are not met, then such a relationship should be truncated immediately.
If they are met, then weaknesses (Red-flags) of prospective partners will diminish, in the face of focus placed on all other wonderful traits and terrific possibilities of our partner. Superior to this, be mindful of your own “Red-flags”.
Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)
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