So many people get baffled each day as to Why the people they so cherish and love behave so mean and unfavorable towards them, regardless of the immense efforts they put in the relationships just to see it thrive. They tend to feel exhausted and frustrated or even depressed about the whole thing.
I just learned that trying to understand why people are the way they are, or why they behave or treat us the way they do is quite foolish.
You can’t know or understand anyone, not to talk of fixing them; it’s impossible!. Why is the effort to understand others foolish? It is simply because the whole world is like pieces of mirror which are constantly in front of us. Everything we see is a piece of your own self (reflections). What makes it puzzling is that, what we see or experience of others is our own reflections. Then, why is someone so hostile or dishonest, or ungrateful or something else to you, when you Know full well that you are not hostile, dishonest, ungrateful and so on but rather friendly, appreciative, honest and so on towards them; how then can those bad things you experience from others actually be a reflection of you?
Well, the truth is that what we know about ourselves or we have come to know about us, is not who we really are. That actual person we really are is shrouded in mystry and we don’t possess absolute knowledge of who we are; intelligently, we could say we embody everything and anything – good and evil.
What we know ourselves to be is what we gathered on this planet. Our Brains (memory and intelligence) is an aggregate of impressions from the time we were born. So the impressions we get from people and situations, form our brains. Our body is the aggregate of food. Status, Position, and so on, are all picked up from this planet. So originally, no one can absolutely know and touch thier real fundamental identities. That is why sometimes you do things (good or bad feats) that you become totally perplexed you actually did them.
So, you can’t change or understand anyone on this earth; just imagine trying to do that. The best you can do, as it were, is to try and adjust the mirror you are holding and adjust your face as well in order to see at least, something manageable. Essentially, you can only adjust yourself, not anyone. You can’t change or understand others, because you can’t even understand your own self absolutely. You can only adjust, so at least the reflections (from the other person) may be a little pleasant.
In effect, never be too bothered of people’s actions and try to fix them; You can’t fix anybody. Know that you are not in absolute control and knowledge to do that, not to even change or fix your own self. You can just make adjustments of yourself to have a slightly better reflections of events you experience of people and situations.
Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)
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