LOVE’S MESSAGE TO MARRIAGE

LOVE’S MESSAGE TO MARRIAGE

Have you found someone you Love, this is what you should know about Love before you step into marriage.
Right from infancy, we feel and are also subtly taught and oriented to veer our very souls to what we love, and so we have or yearn to have engagements with everything we love that we come across. In fact, love is intrinsic of every human and we are almost, if not absolutely, helpless to it. Our very make-up attracts love and gets attracted by love, each micro-second, consciously or unconsciously. We yearn for love and to be loved. Love cannot be scrapped-off or “statued” on our souls – it is ever present and functional. Marriages are suffering because man ( man or woman) is constantly falling in love with everything else and that is a desire their very happiness and meaningful life may depend on; it’s almost a burning desire; and intrinsic too. As soon as you decide to marry because you have found love in a woman or a man, know that, that love cannot rest on them (those you’ve found) alone, so Love wouldn’t be enough sustenance of the marriage. You are bound to love other things too and that create serious rivalry between the marriage and those other things. The supposed adhesive (bond) of marriage, which is love, gets weak, day after day, as it gets attention elsewhere. Remember that anything you love, may suffer rivalry if you discover other things you love too. The rivalry (for love) that makes marriages suffer may or may not necessarily be cheating. Of course it’s one of them, because a partner may have found other love; a burning desire, which is intrinsic. It may also be a job they love so much; a recreation, other family folks; some life goals or ambitions and other things alike. All the above are very natural, legitimate and reasonable as far as the desire to love and be loved burns constantly and fiercely in us – This makes marriage and commitment in marriage very difficult and puzzling especially if our hope is Love. Cheating, betrayal, dishonesty and the like are basically as a result of a misplaced love or burning desire in marriages You should know that Love is the same to all recipients but the impressions and expressions of it are what is different Now, the love for other things will continue to sprout every second of our life and it’s natural, so the question now becomes; how would we profoundly express what we feel rather in our marriage, such that our marriages can thrive, even though we find ourselves in love again with another enterprise: say a goal, a business or in another person, other than our marriage (to our spouse)?

Well, expression and impression are everything as far as love is concerned. One needs to make a firm resolution to express more of love in their marriage. More importantly, since Love cannot be held captive to watch over your marriage, transcend beyond choosing only love to form the institution of marriage This is something both partners must do! Now in case love becomes watery and slip through to other areas in life apart from the marriage, Commitment and Respect are sure to remain. These two, unlike love, are constant factors to the marriage and cannot be shared, spread or divided. You can’t be fully committed to or respect two things at the same space of time or period. For example: if you have to teach in Stage One at 10:00am, Commitment and Respect to that duty and class can never permit you to be in another class at that same time; it’s impossible. On the other hand, when you have just love the class, you may as well develop passionate feelings (love) for a different class, and it would not be surprising to see you dividing the periods for both classes, which comes with its own results. So, that is what Commitment and Respect do in a marriage, in the same vein.

Until both (the man and the woman) have attained the realisation of Commitment and Respect for the institution of marriage, not just even for each spouse, but the whole institution of marriage, then Love is not enough to start off. Love keeps looking (that’s natural and intrinsic); Commitment and Respect stay and create solidarity. For surety, these (Commitment and Respect) are the true adhesives (bonds) of a Marriage.

Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)
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