Fear, insecurity, jealousy and uncontrolled anger are serious symptoms of the effects of deep wounds we develop during the course of our life. So many of us have been seriously betrayed, back-bited, disappointed and exploited by people whom we extremely trusted. Once, upon a time, you used to be so loving, understanding, and caring. What changed? The very people you could even die for, were the very ones who yearned for your “obituary” to be read and embarrassment to clothe you. *_Such wounds of trust leave deep scars in our hearts and memory, which tend to be chronic_*. Those wounds become like a stench that pollutes and blinds every aspect of our existence; presently, and yet to come – it really stinks with mistrust, fear and insecurity.
Every experience we have had in life are so indespensable for our growth. *Life is an aggregate of experiences, that define us and often make us the best of today and the future*
That chapter of our life (wounded chapter), needs to be closed totally, before we open a different one. If wounds are not fully healed, its scorn, is carried forward and blocks the joy of today and tomorrow. Typically, after a failed romantic relationship, it is prudent to wait appreciably and heal of fear, mistrust and insecurity to have full confidence to face the next one. _Never force your wounds on others and infect them too with those wounds; they might afterall be Innocent_.
Instead of allowing wounds of yesterday to blind and pollute our reality of the present, endeavor to treat today as a fresh start. In fact, each day of our life is a fresh start. Everything of yesterday and tomorrow are nothing but a dream; an illusion. *Your only reality in life is the present.* With this wisdom, you won’t miss the good qualities in people and situations as you don’t judge them through the lenses of the wounds and pains of life.
Heal your wounds to experience the fragrance and bliss of Life. Life is beautiful; your bitterness is just a little part of your memory (of yesterday). Don’t tire out in doing good and treating each one different. Transcend from anger and resentment. Understand that those who had hurt you, had their own reasons, difficulties or problems, so forgive them. *Harbouring hate and grudge against those who hurt us is like drinking poison, and expecting another person to die.* Measure the way you allow things to get too much to you. Be free from all hurtful memories. Heal your wounds by the following;
1. You want to be happy, and with people around you. So as much as possible, turn a new page of the sheet. See everyone as different.
2. Meditate often and practice calmness to sieve any toxic memory.
3. Those who hurt you have weaknesses and a facing their own problem.
4. Finally, Know that you become sharpened and experienced with every happening in life. Take them as an advantage.
Remember; Heal your wounds, step out from that stench and experience the sweet fragrance of people and situations presently disposed to you.
Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)
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