Have you ever felt someone (a spouse, child, parent, colleague, friend) has been ungrateful and unjust to you, considering all you have done for or gone through for them? You might have fend for them, provided for them financially, paid their bills, inter alia. Well, this might just be one of the main reasons why those you help and sacrifice for, “pay you back this way” (with disdain):
There is something called “Self-Worth”.
Psychologically, we are often grateful and cherish the one who nourishes our self-worth better than the one who nourishes our bodies. No matter how you fend for, or cater for a person, never ever forget nourishing their Self-Worth. Self-Worth is the “value” you place on what drives people as humans, their passion, what they want to do with their lives, their ambitions and goals; what makes them humans – the very reason for their existence.
Remember that you might be paying bills, feeding and catering for someone invain, because you refused to rather nourish their Self-worth, which would ultimately define them eternally.
Focus on nourishing their (your spouse, child, friend, colleague, and so on) Self-Worth by giving them the “freedom” to be who they really want to be in life and the “support” to discover themselves (their passion, desires, etc) without being a “dictator of perfectionism”. Don’t think and decide for them (even if you feel the urge to do so, partly because you provide for them)
Are you nourishing “their” bodies or self-worth? Well, each has its own outcomes!
Mr. Hko (Writer and Coach)
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