Every woman desires to capture her man’s heart. The chances that she would give grounds for another to take her place or loose him to another is very low.
And so in the quest to achieve this objective, some go the extreme but still results in futility, some fail along the line, some also try to copy others, while others simply miss the providential way. Capturing your man’s heart is not about imprisoning him,holding him in captivity or having control over him and treating him as your puppet. No! In fact you may even push him away from you if you fail to apply the right modules operandi. You may become too obsessed without you even knowing.
To capture someone’s heart means to make a place for yourself in that person’s heart or life. You become a very important person in their cycle of influence and you play a very integral role in their lives which the man must recognize too . Your significance in his life should be worth it.
For a man to commit to you, stay with you, and be yours forever, he has to feel a deep emotional connection with you called love.But you must understand that attraction isn’t enough,Desire isn’t enough and so is Infatuation not enough.
The most important thing is that He has to fall in love.
Woman! understand that men don’t fall in love because of sex and you don’t have to be the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen to win his heart.
Every relationship is special and so it is very important you maintain that uniqueness.
You can call it your tactics since it’s that which captivates your man and giving you a competitive advantage.
To capture the heart of the man you so love,do these;
1. Connect with YOUR Heart
By far, the fastest way to push a man’s emotional love button is to connect with your heart first.
You may have heard that men don’t like emotional women. That’s only true when it comes to women who place expectations around their emotions…
That’s what we call “drama.” Truth be told men LOVE the emotions of women.
Emotions create mystery and allow us to connect to our hearts, which connects us to the woman we’re with in a deeper way than looks, sex, or convincing a man you’re perfect for each other will ever do.
2. Accept Him for Who He is
Like most women, you want to find a man who accepts you for who you are right?
Men are no different. They want to be accepted for who they are too.
In fact, lots of men feel like society and feminism condemn and shame them for being men.
Men are used to women trying to “fix” or change them.
Men are used to women telling them that they should be more like women.
If you can show a man that you accept him for who he is, he’ll begin to trust you.
If he starts to trust you, he’ll open himself up around you in a way that he doesn’t with most people.
And it’s that vulnerability that creates a deep emotional connection that makes him fall in love paving way for you to also capture his heart.
3. Make Him Feel Safe to Open Up Around You
If you want a man to feel like you’re different than all the other women he’s ever met in his life, then you need to make him feel safe around you.
While this may sound weird… I mean… a guy needs to feel safe around a woman?
Shouldn’t it be the opposite way around?
Men may actually be a lot more sensitive than you might realize.
The thing is that we walk around the world constantly guarded. So if you can make him feel safe, that’s the best chance you have of getting him to open up around you.
He’ll express his inner most, private feelings with you. And that’s what creates real intimacy.
And when he starts sharing himself in this way, he’ll begin to feel like he wants to be with and around you all the time(desire to have you around him) because your presence brings him comfort
He’ll want to touch you and hold you in his arms.
He’ll fall in love.
Men Fall in Love With Women Who Have This “Secret Ingredient”
Have you ever done everything you could to make a man feel like you’re the right woman for him only to still have him leave you?
That’s because being “everything a man wants” isn’t what makes him FEEL like you’re the right one for him.
In fact, the actual attempts of “being everything” for a man is exactly what he doesn’t want from a woman and so Note
Because “being everything” is exactly what he wants to be for a woman.
It’s a masculine way to act and will always result in a man pulling away, losing interest, and disappearing on you
Instead, he looks out for almost exactly the opposite.
4.Revere Him
To revere means to have great respect for someone or something.
Respect is a cardinal virtue; it is the foundation of any relationship that endures and stands the test of time. Respect can help re-ignite a relationship long after the flame of love and lust has sputtered. Many men marry the woman who respects him, even over the woman who loves him.
Men may sleep with, talk to, and care about the woman they love (and lust), but often love only isn’t all they need.
A lot of this has to do with the term “I love you.” To a man and a woman, this term can have different meanings. A man may interpret it as “don’t hurt me” or even “you’re trapped.” Men see the love from a woman as more of a commodity than something novel.
Of course, the words make him feel good when he hears them, but they don’t sing to his soul. Men have crippling inadequacies they silently battle their entire lives.
So, figure out why you respect your man. What are you proud of him for? What can you acknowledge him for? How can you make him feel good about himself? Then, tell him. Don’t tell him merely that you love him, tell him why you love him.
Another way to express your respect is to apologize when you’ve made a mistake or said something wrong. You (and he) must make the relationship more important than individual egos. When he knows you respect his character, he will let you in deeper, exposing other tender parts of his soul where he needs healing and support,hence having your way through to his heart.
5. Trust him
Relationship without trust is like a building without a foundation. Even a mild wind can cause it to fall. Learn to trust him even in the midst of events threatening and wishing you otherwise. Men do appreciate women who trust them. If you don’t trust him, then no need to start or establish anything with him. Once you are in the relationship or married already, there may come times when your trust in him will be put to test. You may never know and you never can tell when. In such trying times and insecurities, approach him and let him know how you feel. Don’t listen to the crowd even when they go to the extreme to prove what they’re saying, don’t believe them over your man. You should rather defend him before them. Perhaps what they’re saying is actually the truth but hey! don’t rush to do the uncalled for and when you go home, you sit your man down to talk about it and do so in a mature way.
These additional tips will also help you to achieve your objective of capturing a man’s heart:
Find ways to acknowledge him for things he does that may go unnoticed.
Be proud of him for something that matters.
Trust yourself that you are strong enough to let down your guard around him because when you do, the two of you can be real with one another.
Be yourself; be who you’re meant to be.
Mr. Hko (Grammarian, Counselor) / Scilla Yung / 2020
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