There is no one universal definition for love. But love is an act. It goes beyond what we see, feel and think to be.
A person can’t make or establish a relationship because it takes two or more.
So in a relationship, both parties are ready to sacrifice, support, make things work between them, contribute in a way or the other etc
Every relationship too, must have “Love” as a basis; a relationship without love is like a seed yet to be planted. It takes time to make root, gradually grows to become as desired. The most important virtue to groom and nurture love in any relationship is Patience
So it requires very great effort on the part of both partners, else, it can’t work for them. Therefore, you shouldn’t venture into one knowing very well you are not ready otherwise, you will be wasting your time and that of the other person. Not just that but then, you would have toyed with people’s emotion. The effect is that, they won’t believe in love because of past experiences and so don’t and never be the reason for which someone would never want to be in a relationship or love again.
Relationships are periods in our life when we discover the need for the opposite sex. A period where someone becomes a part of your “walk in life”, learn to know more of you, or them and vice versa and if possible this relationship may grow and result into marriage.
Love is a glue that keeps a relationship strong and solid. But what is love, and how do you know if you are truly in love?
In fact, it’s difficult to define love because everyone’s perception of real love can be dramatically different. But people often get confused between lust, attraction, and companionship.
Hence, there is no one best definition of love.
Love is generally an intense feeling of euphoria and deep affection for someone or something.
This may not encompass all the emotions that are surging within you and so to help you understand what the meaning of love in a relationship is, here are some signs that the emotions you are feeling are indeed in line with the concept of love.
1. Love is not lust
“it was love at first sight,” is a common phrase we normally hear people say. love is not something we feel right away. It actually takes time to grow alongside other factors e.g personality, otherwise, what you are feeling is something in the other person that attracts your fantasy. Nothing else and Love that is based on feelings is infatuation.
Real love is not feelings. It’s truth, understanding and actions.
That strong feeling of attraction, like a magnet pulling you towards that person you’ve just met is infatuation and sexual chemistry.
Mother nature gives us a big dose of infatuation in order to get us together initially.
Love does include sexual chemistry, but it differs because it is an emotion that takes time to build. Lust can appear in an instant; love evolves over a period of time as you get to know the other person inside and out and so note the differences.
2. Love completes a relationship
You may be immensely sexually-attracted to your partner, but that does not mean you understand and loves your partner .
If you haven’t developed a base of loving feelings with your partner, once the sexual spark dies down, you will become bored with the relationship. So you see it’s not love. That is why you must not start a relationship with sex – That kills relationships!
3. Love takes time to bloom
A loving relationship is not built in a day. The threads of love take time to weave together to form a strong bond.
It is only as you and your partner share your thoughts, fears, dreams, and hopes that love takes root. So trust the process and don’t rush love. It’s got it own timetable that needs to be respected and not hurried.
4. Love means compromise
Love in a relationship is to compromise your needs in order to accommodate your partner’s needs or desires willfully.
But we don’t sacrifice our own self in doing this, nor should the other person require us to sacrifice our own self for their personal gain. That’s not what love is about in a relationship.
So if you see these signs of what love encompass in your relationship, rest assured that you have been lucky enough to experience true love.
Work hard to maintain this love for a healthier & happier relationship, and don’t ever let it go.
To make your relationship work, give love a meaning and don’t copy others because when it doesn’t work, you could jeopardize the relationship and have yourself to be blamed.
Stay healthier, happier
Koenzagh / Scilla Yung / 2020
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