Obviously, no one can absolutely please another including women trying to please their partners, but all hope is not lost.
You can still do things as a woman to keep your man around for as long as possible without losing his love. If a man is properly treated by a woman, nothing can take him away – at least not for long. Men who are emotionally and mentally tortured by the negative behavior of their wives tend to cheat and eventually break up with such women. Women should be like a solace to men, a safe haven, not a source of fire and bitterness to consume them.
These are some tips to keep your man to yourself and to maintain his love and affection for you.
1. Never Insult or verbally abuse a man
Unlike women who may love a man perhaps for his wealth, or social status, what really attracts a man to stay with a woman is Respect.
Have deep respect for your man (husband) and never use direct or suggestive insults on him. This demoralises men and makes them feel worthless. Men’s ego should always be boosted and it cannot be tainted or compromised.
No matter the issue at hand, talk calmly to him and give him respect. Don’t be fooled by the popular adage that Respect is reciprocal. Just do you part to protect and keep the man you love.
2. Minimize friendship with the opposite sex and your ex
Do not foolishly keep your ex-lover in the picture of your current relationship or marriage. Avoid this as much as possible.
Your husband or courting partner, as it were, should be your best male friend. Never trouble him with incessant calls or company of male friends or an ex lover. It dampens his ego and may breed insecurities in him. Let him feel on top of all men in the world and give him the sole honor of he being your everything. Yes he should be your King. Never take solace or comfort in a male friend in situations when you have conflicts at home; this can result in infidelity. Just know that your husband is the only man you know.
3. Be his mother but not your son
This sounds paradoxical, but the truth is, you need to pamper and care for your husband as a baby, and serve him as a mother serves a child, yet you shouldn’t treat him as a son or a small child in cases where you scold or shouts at him. Always use Soothing and soft words in him and give him peace and satisfaction.
4. Trust him and his activities
You cannot keep a man for long if you don’t trust his activities outside home. As a bread winner, he has to “make a lot of moves” to provide for the home. Do not shout at him if he comes home late or seem busy. Just respectfully communicate your feelings and concerns to him and Never think he is cheating. Avoid unnecessary Naggings. Have full trust and love for your man and do your part as a wife.
5. Do not Starve your husband
The starving could be denial of good food, sex, or communication.
Always make sure you satisfy your husband in those regards. Remember, the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, as the old adage goes. Try to improve your sex life with him and have a lot of fruitful conversations with him. Communicate often and build the Relationship for the better.
6. Avoid third parties in your relationship
Do not unnecessarily introduce your man or husband to your female friends and never allow them come to your home or interfer in your relationship or marriage. Keep in-laws and siblings at their proper places and never sell out your husband. Do not expose secret happenings in your home to family and friends. Try to solve things amicably with your husband and maintain peace at home. Report extreme conflicts to family when necessary after all measures to curb it have proven futile.
7. Be supportive
Well, I’m not necessarily talking about money. If you decide to help your man with money, then be rest assured you are going to be the best in his eyes, that is like a bonus for you.
Support your husband always in constructive decision making and always be there for him. Help him care for the children and the home at large. After all, never forget you are his helper, as in the holy books.
8. Always be appealing to him
Learn new ways of dressing, learn to speak fluently, read to amass knowledge, learn a new skill and just be creative. Always look beautiful for him and stay attractive with desirable qualities and capabilities. Never be a boring or unattractive to see or be with as a wife or woman, be abreast with trends and time.
9. Avoid Nagging
A nagging woman or wife is as toxic to men as a poisonousness bitters. You will remain irritating and boring to your husband if you nag always. Just remain mindful in all situations and do not overly complain about everything. Just know how to communicate respectfully to your husband or man without nagging.
10. Do not allow Pregnancy and Childirth (children) get in the way
Do not relegate your husband to the background if you become pregnant or have children. Do not overly be into your children and neglect the love, attention and responsibilities your husband deserve. Always remind him that he is special and that he still has a place in your heart . The children of course, came to meet the two of you and you should never neglect or compromise your husband’s needs and replace with the caring of the children or pregnancy as an excuse. Never do that! Learn to remain balanced in catering for your children and husband.
11. Pray for him
A prayerful woman is a complete woman. Her prayerful nature works pretty well to the favor of her family. A prayerful woman remains vigilant and discipline to the needs of her husband and family. He always apply the God Factor in her dealings with her husband or man, and prays for him to succeed in all his endeavors. Yes, the make ups and buxums may attract a man, but a prayerful woman cretes and indelible impression in the hearts of men and they stand a high chance of keeping their husbands.
As stated early on, no matter what you do as a woman or wife, you may not be able to completely satisfy a man but doing these things will surely help to minimize the risk of losing your man or your marriage. Continue building your home, and never tear it apart – Be wise!
Mr. Hko (Grammarian, Counselor) / 2020
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