So many men across the world find it very difficult and a very big deal to approach a lady and to propose and make their intentions known to them. Some end up losing their dream women to other guys who they are even better than. This can cause a lot of heartbreaks sometimes. To make matters worse, they sometimes succeed in flirting with women online, but to meet up and impress them the more becomes another problem. It seems the sight of a woman means “Horror” itself to them; they feel so scared to approach any woman. Well, any man, no matter his background, financial status or social standing can woo any woman to his favor even with women who seem to be above his league.
Generally, such men may lack skills in the following and thus, must work on them:
- Eye Contact ( Never look away, or at the breast area of a girl, or forehead of her when approaching and talking to her. One must look into the eyes of a lady when talking to her. There should be an established eye contact to create connection between you and the girl. Do not over do it either, you may appear weird (like a pervert) if you over stare at her eyes. Just keep a moderate eye contact. This creates confidence.
- Body Language
Make sure your shoulders are straight and head up when talking to a girl. Stand upright with the right foot in front. When sitting, sit upright and do not play with your hair or any object when talking to her. This also boosts confidence. - Facial Expressions.
If you have a nice smile, smile wide as you look into the eyes of the lady. If you are afraid she will sense it miles away. So keep the smile and look into her eyes. - Approach.
Do not allow a lady to passby before you call her. It shows lack of confidence. Do not stop a lady when she seem to be in a hurry. Always face her and meet her directly to talk to her. It shows confidence. - Appearance.
You need not to be rich. You just have to be neat and wear decent dresses. Choose colours that fit your skin tone and mostly you could wear Red to spice up your wordrobe. Wear dresses you feel comfortable inside and appear appealing. - Be Touchy.
While talking to a woman be bold to touch her whiles giving her compliments. Like you hold her waist while praising how beautiful it looks like. You could also hold her hands or even hug her. This takes confidence and to your surprise, she wouldn’t complain. - Moblie Number Exchange
Do not be in a haste to take her number. Enjoy the conversation you are having with her for a long time and sometimes they would even be the one to give you the contact number. Do not act as if it is the number you only need. Ladies will see you as just one of the toasters chasing for numbers. They might block you if you call back. - Be funny and make her laugh
This doesn’t mean you need to be some sort of “Mr. Bean, or Charlie Chaplain”. All what it means is that say things that will make her smile and avoid anything like politics or her age or too much religion.
Just keep the conversation on her interests and create humor around them for her to smile. - Know when to Call or Text
Sometimes you need to create suspense in her mind by waiting for a week before calling. When you call, start by sparking off a funny occurrence during the time you met. It could be, ” I guess you didn’t wear that beautiful but long heels that nearly chopped off your leg”. This will spark off familiarity and a ground to build further conversation. - Assume she is one of your friends
One way to boost confidence when approaching a lady is to be yourself and take her to be one of your female pals. Talk to her in your normal self and be real as possible. Establish a mind that you already know her and that she is already yours. Follow that zeal and success is yours.
Most often than not, woman usually want men to approach them but they want men who are confident in themselves and know what they want. So the next time you try wooing a lady you really like, try the tips just discussed. Never give up, until you win her.
Koenza News / Mr. Hko (Grammarian, Counselor) / 2020
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