Have you ever wondered why some relationships look so promising, yet dissolve over time? And why do others, whose partners seem hopelessly mismatched, grow stronger and even become happier than ever before? Much research has tried to identify the individual characteristics that make for a successful relationship, including how couples deal with conflict or communicate. All shed some light on what may underlie relationship success. Yes for those of us who are spiritually inclined, we know full well that God cannot be missed in a successful relationship and that a relationship that is built on the foundation of God lasts very long and the couples involved become happy.
For a strong and solid Relationship , the couple must first exhibit two broad qualities – LOVE and RESPECT
Let’s try to break down theses giant qualifies into various aspects of their everyday life. A Happy couple exhibits the following:
1. The Willingness to forgo personal interest an put their partners interests and needs ahead of theirs. Letting go of self-interest in this way leads to a long lasting happy Relationship. Staying glued to your own ego and interests will only result in fights and misunderstandings all the time
2. They feel appreciated by their partner and also appreciate their partners.They place a very high value on their partner and let them stand tall above all that matters; Let them feel special at all times
3. They Develop a listening ear for their partners. They endeavor to always listen to their partner to understand them, but not just to hear. Maintaining Eye contact with their partner whenever they are communicating with them. This shows genuine interest in whatever their partner is saying.
4. A high level of mutual sex understanding. Your partner might be very adventurous when it comes to sex and as married partners, they should have mutual understanding of what they both like and exhibit them.
5. Happy couples know how to manage their anger, they do not insult each other in heated arguments. If that happens, they are willing to apologise and face consequences without blaming anyone.
6. Happy couples clearly communicate what they feel, without assuming that the other partner should know. They are explicit about every little thing that matters to them, and talk about them with their partners
7. Happy couples easily forgive each other and do not hold grudges. They understand that each partner is fallible and could err. They don’t allow misunderstandings linger on for a long time.
8. No matter the schedule of the day, Happy couples get enough time for each other without excuses. They always make (not necessarily get) time for each other and make each other a priority.
9. Supports each other financially and physically. They Share and are caring to the needs of each other
10. Happy couples know the difference between privacy and secrecy. They do not keep Secrets but of course certain things may be private (do not necessarily have anything to do with the other) but they don’t keep secrets ( things embarrassing or dangerous for the other partner to be aware of).
These and many other fine qualities should be exhibited by both parties to make their relationship a happy one. They should be ready to occasionally consult mature partners or trusted counselors for the necessary help to keep spicing up their relationship.
Happiness, above all could be flinching (not stable) so being a happy couple is a continuous process which should not be halted. In case of downsides(difficulties) keep practicing these fine qualities to always revive the Relationship.
Mr. Hko (Grammarian, Counselor)
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